People will often ask me how I get through each day with these illnesses. It has taken me a long time to learn how to cope, but I am finally getting it I believe! Of course, I am human and I have days where I will feel sorry for myself, ask God, “Why me?”, and not want to talk or associate with anyone.
When I first became sick, and even up to a year or so ago, I knew I was sick and was different from other people, yet I still tried to go on like I wasn’t. If I really had to admit it, take it easier, believe it, then it would be so – does that make sense? I am very independent, controlling (yes, I can admit that), and ambitious, so even though my brain wants to do a lot, my body will stop me. I have to find other ways to challenge myself now.
But for the most part, I try to keep upbeat and positive about the whole experience. What finally happened to me that gave me insight?
I just decided that I have these problems, for right now they are here to stay – I have to accept that and it is something that I can’t change. Like it or not, they are here to stay until a cure is found. I am this way for a reason – I think that God has a bigger plan for me than I will ever know and I believe it is to help others. So if I can use my diseases as a way to spread the word, raise awareness, and help others learn how to cope, then it is worth it.
I also want my son to see that you never give up. He truly keeps me going as well and I want him to grow up knowing that even though his mommy is different than his friends’ mommys, he will always be able to say that I was not a quitter and that I loved him with all of my heart and taught him to never give up or give in.
It is hard for me to admit my weaknesses, especially on a web blog where thousands of people will see. But in order to cope, heal, move on, I have to do it for me.
If you are suffering as well with chronic illness, or any other types of problems, please feel free to email me, post a comment, let me know how you cope. Take care and make it a wonderful day!
I enjoy reading your blog. I began reading awhile back and I finally got a chance to read it today after being away for awhile. I just wanted to tell you that the changes that you’ve made and the color scheme that you’ve switched to are lovely.
Have a wonderful day!
Mrs. Blessed, Thank you! Your comment just made my day! I like to play around a little bit with the colors and other things, so it’s hard to tell what this blog might look like next! Keep coming back! I checked out your blog also and it is very nice! I like the simple recipes because it is hard for me energy wise to make big meals!
I seem to have a chronic condition as well, and while it is not as serious as yours or others problems, when it flares to its worst, the depression can really set in. Thanks for the coping tips – I try to remember that I am happy, pretty healthy actually, and, have a great healthy family and there are people with far far more serious problems than mine.
Saintseester, Sorry to hear you have health problems. Please know that you can always come here for support! Take care!
Hi there! I’m new here.
My daughter is my treasure, the light of my life. My partner is a blessing I don’t deserve. They keep me going.
Reaching out to others through my blog and podcast, trying to help by sharing anything I’ve learned while dealing with CFS/FMS, helps as well. It’s important to me that I do something for others, to give some value back to the world, so fibrantliving.com and my other sites are one way that I can still do that, even when I can’t leave the house.
Hi Cynthia and welcome! Thank you so much for sharing! I will be sure to check out your blog! Maybe we can exchange links??
I think if you’ll look, you’ll find your site listed. We were both interviewed for an article recently, and I was tickled to find other bloggers with CFS to add to my blogroll. 🙂 Reaching out to support each other is one of the best things that we can do, and something that only we can do.
Just tonight I discovered your blog site, and I love it! It’s very nicely done and you have some interesting and compelling stories to tell. What appeals to me most is that even though you have a chronic illness, you still have such a positive attitude. I, too, have chronic health problems (severe osteoarthritis, chronic lymphedema, chronic cellulitis, chronic kidney disease) and find it hard to talk about my disabilities with people who don’t have any. They just don’t understand. A DVT almost killed me 3 years ago and set off a chain reaction of my chronic illnesses. I lost a job I was passionate about after 13 years, partly because I have become disabled. Depression is an almost constant companion now. I’m glad and grateful that I found your blog; I’ll be reading it every day, I’m sure. Thank you for sharing your life.
Hi Cynthia! Thank you so much for your nice comments and I am glad you found me! It sounds like you have really had a rough time. It is hard to give up most of your life and things you are passionate about. Please – anytime you need to talk feel free to email me!